Authenticity in a New Cycle: Embracing Growth and Transformation

In the journey of life, we often find ourselves at the threshold of new beginnings—a new cycle filled with opportunities for growth and transformation. As we step into uncharted territories, it becomes crucial to anchor ourselves in authenticity, allowing our true selves to shine through. In this blog post, we will explore the power of authenticity in embracing personal growth and transformation. By delving into topics such as intimacy, pleasure, vulnerability, boundaries, death, birth, and rebirth, we will unravel the interconnectedness of these aspects and discover how they contribute to our authenticity. So, let's embark on this journey of self-discovery with curiosity and openness.

Embracing Authenticity:

Authenticity forms the foundation for a meaningful and fulfilling life. It is the essence of aligning our actions, thoughts, and emotions with our true selves. As individuals seeking growth and transformation, we recognize the importance of embracing our authenticity to create a life that resonates deeply with who we are.

Intimacy and Vulnerability:

Intimacy allows us to form deep connections with others, but it requires vulnerability. By exploring the connections between intimacy and authenticity, we can understand how opening ourselves up to vulnerability allows us to cultivate genuine connections and embrace our true selves.

Pleasure as a Path to Authenticity:

Often, we underestimate the power of pleasure in our lives. By embracing pleasure and understanding its connection to authenticity, we can tap into our innate desires, passions, and joys. Exploring the realms of pleasure helps us connect with our truest selves and live in alignment with our values.

Setting Boundaries for Authenticity:

Boundaries are essential for maintaining our authenticity and well-being. By establishing healthy boundaries, we protect our values, needs, and energy. We will delve into the significance of setting boundaries and how they contribute to our growth and authenticity.

Navigating Life's Transitions: Death, Birth, and Rebirth:

Life is a cycle of constant change and transformation. By embracing the natural cycles of death, birth, and rebirth, we can navigate life's transitions with grace and authenticity. We will reflect on the lessons we learn from these transformative experiences and how they shape us into more authentic versions of ourselves.

Cultivating Self-Compassion:

Authenticity thrives in an environment of self-compassion. We will explore the importance of treating ourselves with kindness and understanding as we navigate the ups and downs of growth and transformation. By practicing self-compassion, we can embrace our vulnerabilities and foster self-growth.

Authenticity in Relationships:

Authenticity plays a vital role in our relationships. We will explore how being true to ourselves allows us to form deep and meaningful connections with others. We will also discuss the balance between intimacy and autonomy within relationships, nurturing both our individuality and our connections with others.

Harnessing the Power of Ritual:

Rituals have been used throughout history as a way to honor and mark significant life transitions. By incorporating rituals into our lives, we create meaningful moments that allow us to connect with our authentic selves and embrace growth and transformation.

In the end…

Embracing authenticity in a new cycle of growth and transformation is a powerful endeavor. By exploring the connections between intimacy, pleasure, vulnerability, boundaries, death, birth, and rebirth, we open ourselves up to deeper levels of understanding and self-discovery. Through curiosity, openness, and self-compassion, we can unlock our true potential and create a life that aligns with our authentic selves. As individuals, let us embrace this journey of growth and transformation with courage and embrace our authenticity every step of the way.

Due Dates... I feel like it's a bill or deadline.

Who came up with this idea? Term? Everyone asks, when are you due?  I'm so guilty of that. And in light of recent realizations, that puts a lot of pressure on the mama to perform. Like it's a show.  While medical professionals call it "Estimated Due Date" they don't typically behave like it's an estimate.

If baby isn't here by the EDD, then often times there's a let down.

Some medical professionals don't encourage waiting for the natural unfolding to take place (up to 42 weeks of gestation). And they don't for several reasons, worrying about size of baby, stress on organs, emotional state of the mother. Again, mama might very well be uncomfortable, have other children to take care of, working, sick, or just OVER pregnancy.  I feel like it's a culture that has been procured over the decades.

Do we support women? Like, take care of them, nurture them, love on them? Or are they left to their own devices because everyone else is too busy, or not genuine?

Pregnancy takes how long it takes for the baby to be birthed, I'm not saying that there isn't need or necessity for alternative methods, most have a place. But it's often when the woman isn't supported how she needs or desired, that the language moves into impatience and lack of trust in her body.

So what can we do? Lots of things:

• Give massages - foot, shoulders, belly, hands, back
• Hold a mother's blessing
• Keep pantry & fridge stocked and easily made
• Take her out - for a walk, out for coffee, pub, park, or just for a drive
• Take her kids to the park, leave her at home
• Let her nap or sleep
• Go with her to appointments
• Assure her, encourage her to trust her body

It's hard being pregnant. We don't all feel like a glowing goddess... even at the best of times.

You want to help? Do one of the things above. She needs to FEEL the love and support. Convince her of that.

xx

Erika The Doula

What's a Woman's Circle?

What is that? Is that some kind of witch craft or hippy thing?
I know some of you totally thought that!

Many of you don't know me, and the impression is we're going to chant, hold hands, sing kumbaya, and burn sage... if you know what that is. No, and not the point.

The point is to sit together, listen, and share. In a circle, no one talks over one another, we only give time to share our thoughts, wisdom, feeling, ideas, and any other inspiration, one at a time.

We share together. We all have shit on our plate that needs sorting. Relationships with ourselves needs maintenance, regularly. So I figured, why not? We need to come together, find our sisters, and truly just be ourselves together.

If you need any of the above, come find me.

I'm holding a woman's circle twice a month, check out here for events.

xx Erika

How to pick where to birth, be safe and informed.

Safe choices where to birth your baby.

Everyone assumes a hospital, right? You were probably born in one, I was born in one, my partner was born in one. It's just where you go right? What if something happens during labour and you need the doctor STAT, good thing you were in the hospital!

Seems to be a lot of feelings around fear.

Truth is, you do have safe options where to birth your baby. Yes, read that again. SAFE options. This is YOUR choice. My partner thought he had a say... and well, he's not going through this passage in me, he's beside me. Doesn't feel what I'm feeling, thinking, experiencing... so it is MY choice.

Let's define "home birth" and that's any place that's not in a hospital. So it could be a birthing centre, a home, hotel, or friends' house. Most family doctors, if not all, don't support home births. Primarily because they don't have the equipment needed to attend one. Midwives on the other hand, attend births in hospitals and at home.

Research shows that for those with uncomplicated pregnancies, home birth is a safe and responsible choice.

The main differences between hospital birth & home birth:
-Reduced rate of infection
-Reduced interventions like c-section up to 30%
-Reduced need for drugs to speed up labour by as much as 40%

Other factors to consider:
-Comfort of environment: dim lights, more casual, ease of movement and comfort measures
-More personal: no beeping or listening to other women birthing

First time parents often assume in the event of an emergency, birthing in a hospital, the obstetrician is just hanging around at the hospital at all hours, awaiting for an emergency... NOPE. They are called in and have up to 30 minutes to show up, which in some cases is no different, from labouring at home, and then transferring into the hospital waiting the same amount of time. In addition, an anesthesiologist is also called in just like the OB.

The last point I'd like to make is that midwives are trained for emergency situations, typically work as a team, and come with a whole kit for such situations. They wouldn't be covered by medical, or allowed to practice within this scope if it wasn't safe.

There you go, now hopefully you know a little more, and can ask the questions you need answered. Feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions!

Click here to see the research regarding home birth safety.

Click here to see what's taken to a birth in Canada (may vary from province to province)

xx

Erika