Unveiling HERvision... and how it unfolded...
Our first circle completed.
What a beautiful experience and expression of all those that attended. I am so honoured and left feeling today a sense of wholeness and community with all those that came. Thank you.
I encourage you to join. It’s the whole reason why I’m doing this. I am called to honour and celebrate our divine human spirit, we need to sit and gather in circle. This is how we activate our powers of self reflection + conscious choice and how we each align to free-will connecting to wisdom.
Together last night, we raised our vibrations, as all the Sistership Circle Facilitators held circle during the full moon.
It is no coincidence that my circle was held on the 13th, the number of the goddess divinity. It is why “unlucky 13” came to be all those years ago, as the masculine is in fear of the divine feminine… burning witches at the stake for connecting to mother nature, grandmother moon, father sky, and sister + brother stars.
I was deeply moved and felt the energetics of the container we co-created. The tears flowed down my face as I read the invocation, meaning each and every word spoken. It is the vibration of my being: resonating + channeling + collaborating.
If you are curious, seeking connection, you are welcome to join us. This is for all ages of women with a womb space. We are all on this journey together, and I would love to join you.
The next circle is on December 20th, where will be honouring the Winter Solstice and collaborating in a bath salts ceremony. Space is limited. Click here for more info.
Much love + gratitude,
Erika
Due Dates... I feel like it's a bill or deadline.
Wtf is up with due dates? Why does everyone always ask, “Oh when are you due”…
Who came up with this idea? Term? Everyone asks, when are you due? I'm so guilty of that. And in light of recent realizations, that puts a lot of pressure on the mama to perform. Like it's a show. While medical professionals call it "Estimated Due Date" they don't typically behave like it's an estimate.
If baby isn't here by the EDD, then often times there's a let down.
Some medical professionals don't encourage waiting for the natural unfolding to take place (up to 42 weeks of gestation). And they don't for several reasons, worrying about size of baby, stress on organs, emotional state of the mother. Again, mama might very well be uncomfortable, have other children to take care of, working, sick, or just OVER pregnancy. I feel like it's a culture that has been procured over the decades.
Do we support women? Like, take care of them, nurture them, love on them? Or are they left to their own devices because everyone else is too busy, or not genuine?
Pregnancy takes how long it takes for the baby to be birthed, I'm not saying that there isn't need or necessity for alternative methods, most have a place. But it's often when the woman isn't supported how she needs or desired, that the language moves into impatience and lack of trust in her body.
So what can we do? Lots of things:
- Give massages - foot, shoulders, belly, hands, back
- Hold a mother's blessing
- Keep pantry & fridge stocked and easily made
- Take her out - for a walk, out for coffee, pub, park, or just for a drive
- Take her kids to the park, leave her at home
- Let her nap or sleep
- Go with her to appointments
- Assure her, encourage her to trust her body
It's hard being pregnant. We don't all feel like a glowing goddess... even at the best of times.
You want to help? Do one of the things above. She needs to FEEL the love and support. Convince her of that.
xx
Erika The Doula
What's a Woman's Circle?
What is that? Is that some kind of witch craft or hippy thing?
I know some of you totally thought that!
Many of you don't know me, and the impression is we're going to chant, hold hands, sing kumbaya, and burn sage... if you know what that is. No, and not the point.
The point is to sit together, listen, and share. In a circle, no one talks over one another, we only give time to share our thoughts, wisdom, feeling, ideas, and any other inspiration, one at a time.
We share together. We all have shit on our plate that needs sorting. Relationships with ourselves needs maintenance, regularly. So I figured, why not? We need to come together, find our sisters, and truly just be ourselves together.
If you need any of the above, come find me.
I'm holding a woman's circle twice a month, check out here for events.
xx Erika
How to pick where to birth, be safe and informed.
Safe choices where to birth your baby.
Everyone assumes a hospital, right? You were probably born in one, I was born in one, my partner was born in one. It's just where you go right? What if something happens during labour and you need the doctor STAT, good thing you were in the hospital!
Seems to be a lot of feelings around fear.
Truth is, you do have safe options where to birth your baby. Yes, read that again. SAFE options. This is YOUR choice. My partner thought he had a say... and well, he's not going through this passage in me, he's beside me. Doesn't feel what I'm feeling, thinking, experiencing... so it is MY choice.
Let's define "home birth" and that's any place that's not in a hospital. So it could be a birthing centre, a home, hotel, or friends' house. Most family doctors, if not all, don't support home births. Primarily because they don't have the equipment needed to attend one. Midwives on the other hand, attend births in hospitals and at home.
Research shows that for those with uncomplicated pregnancies, home birth is a safe and responsible choice.
The main differences between hospital birth & home birth:
-Reduced rate of infection
-Reduced interventions like c-section up to 30%
-Reduced need for drugs to speed up labour by as much as 40%
Other factors to consider:
-Comfort of environment: dim lights, more casual, ease of movement and comfort measures
-More personal: no beeping or listening to other women birthing
First time parents often assume in the event of an emergency, birthing in a hospital, the obstetrician is just hanging around at the hospital at all hours, awaiting for an emergency... NOPE. They are called in and have up to 30 minutes to show up, which in some cases is no different, from labouring at home, and then transferring into the hospital waiting the same amount of time. In addition, an anesthesiologist is also called in just like the OB.
The last point I'd like to make is that midwives are trained for emergency situations, typically work as a team, and come with a whole kit for such situations. They wouldn't be covered by medical, or allowed to practice within this scope if it wasn't safe.
There you go, now hopefully you know a little more, and can ask the questions you need answered. Feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions!
Click here to see the research regarding home birth safety.
Click here to see what's taken to a birth in Canada (may vary from province to province)
xx
Erika
How to Reconnect with Yourself
Hi mama, are you okay? See below for some much needed self love.
- Weekly Ritual: Take time every week to do something for you, uninterrupted, child free, and totally focused on you.
- Ask yourself, "What can I do right now to make me happier?" Is that being happier at home? Work? Volunteering? Grabbing your favourite chocolate bar or tea?
- Create a vision board of goals: What are simple things you can take regular steps towards accomplishing? Make sure you can do these things in a loving way, not so much focused on losing weight, but maybe going for a walk with your best friend, or a new friend you made.
- Enjoy something that you did before you were pregnant: Going to a Paint Nite class? Pottery? Snowshoeing? Spa date?
- Join a sisterhood: connect with women that see the power within you. Laugh, share stories, struggles. These are circles that can offer you unconditional non-judgemental support.
If you're in the area, reach out to me, we can go for coffee or sushi date.
Not Today...
I just can’t.
Some days you wake up and the immediate reaction is “nope. not today.”
Waking up the next day after you baby is born, you may feel like a shock to your system. You know you’re suppose to feel all this love, bliss, glow, and be swelled with all this motherhood.
Back the bus up, that was just yesterday. Or maybe it was a week ago, a month ago, or even a year ago.
You’re not alone. I still wake up some days and think, “Can I take a raincheck?”
I LOVE Shoshanna, but man, all the things we fill on our plate. And sometimes there really isn’t even anything “big” going on, you’re just thinking NOPE, not today.
Well you have my permission, I’ll give you that raincheck. What is the WORST thing to happen today? I’m not saying throw in the towel, but yourself permission to say YES, not today.
You’re not alone.
xx Erika