OMG... What is a Mother's Blessing?

Have you heard of this new trend?  It's something that's new to me and I thought the "thing" to do was a traditional baby shower.

A mother's blessing is an adapted ceremony from a Blessingway performed by the Navajo people. To the indigenous people it is a ceremony that celebrates a woman's transition in life, not just related to birth, but divorce, moving, career change, remarriage... it's a way of dreaming and manifesting the will of what will become.

What happens in a mother's blessing? We love on the birthing woman, how that looks is different based on her needs and comfort. We can brush her hair, braid with flowers by her mothers,sisters, or girlfriends, make or bring a flower crown. We give her hand or foot massages, or mani/pedi, paint mama's belly. Another idea is to create a token like a bracelet, infuse candles that we light when birth begins. You only need to pick a few. The ceremony lasts an afternoon. We eat, play music, laugh, share only positive feelings and stories, and love on her.

We close the ceremony with a favourite poem, song, or meditation.

When birthing begins, she will take her token to remember that her tribe is with her, behind her, and supporting her.

Drop me a message if you're curious about learning more.

Being truthful

Do you ever look in the mirror and think: omg my skin is so ugly, thin, pale, has zits or scars? Or do you ever come across situations and you criticize yourself over and over replaying it in your head?

 Fuck I hate that.  It's like I obsess about what I should do, not do, look like, be on trend, fit in, or be me...

 Then I heard something, "what if there was no judgement?"... And I started thinking, what IF there was no such thing as judgement? Is that even possible?

 Yes. It is possible. You're living your life in your lane. Not in anyone else's. You stand there in the mirror with your smile, your love, your laugh. It's all you.

I feel like we judge people as an affirmation, validation, or flexing authority onto a situation or person... And why? What do you gain?  How do you feel different for doing that?

I realized that it doesn't matter. Don't get me wrong, this isn't a switch I flip over night... This takes legit effort. But my realization is that judgement doesn't matter. I don't have to subscribe to that belief system.

My power comes from love. My love for helping those that hear, see, and feel me. They're seeking some kind of connection and clarity. To help others, I have to actually practice this.

 It is REALLY hard! But I remind myself, daily, how can you be express love in this situation? You can say almost anything in a loving way, it doesn't mean to be a door mat or passive aggressive, but staying and being true to myself. Maybe I need time to reflect, pause, be still for a moment before responding.

 I honour myself, and let myself be free of limitations and self imposed expectations.

Your truth is the love you show yourself, which is how we are perceived by others. 

xx Erika

What's a Woman's Circle?

What is that? Is that some kind of witch craft or hippy thing?
I know some of you totally thought that!

Many of you don't know me, and the impression is we're going to chant, hold hands, sing kumbaya, and burn sage... if you know what that is. No, and not the point.

The point is to sit together, listen, and share. In a circle, no one talks over one another, we only give time to share our thoughts, wisdom, feeling, ideas, and any other inspiration, one at a time.

We share together. We all have shit on our plate that needs sorting. Relationships with ourselves needs maintenance, regularly. So I figured, why not? We need to come together, find our sisters, and truly just be ourselves together.

If you need any of the above, come find me.

I'm holding a woman's circle twice a month, check out here for events.

xx Erika