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How do we stay OUT of competition?

Have you been THAT person or know someone who has a natural inclination to “one up” in a story? Sometimes, if I’m being real here, I’ve caught myself doing it. It happens. We’re human.

In circle, it’s really important to give space for others to feel comfortable to experience the depth of their moment. Here are my circle guidelines.

  1. Resonate, not compete. You have permission to be real, raw, vulnerable, and authentic.
    You have permission for self-expression.

  2. We are co-creating sisterhood, share Ownership. We all hold up the integrity of the group, and you are responsible for your own growth and expansion.
    We are weaving this sisterhood together. Our authentic vulnerability resonates together.

  3. This is a safe + confidential space. We do not share names or stories of our sisters. We can ask for permission and the sister has the right to say no.
    We do not console, unless the sister is asking for it.

  4. Speak-up when feeling triggered + out of alignment. Let go of "suffering in silence", lean into being vulnerable. Navigate where this trigger is coming from.

  5. Connection over promotion. We support each others' work from a place of authentic connection. This is so you don't feel spammy energy. We love hearing what you are up to, pls be respectful and mindful.

  6. We will not "fix" anything. This is a hard one, especially for mamas.
    Let us trust that you have the answer within. If you are still searching or lost, please give permission for "fixes".

  7. Play on our edge, and honour this container. You are responsible for how you show up. Being vulnerable is always so hard.
    My challenge to you is do not suffer in silence, instead play on your edge of vulnerable sensation.
    You are not alone.

  8. I commit to tell the truth. Be honest with first yourself, and then others.
    We hear you, sister. We see you.
    Healing from the inside starts with truth.

  9. I commit to opening my heart. When we are feeling vulnerable, sometimes before we recognize the feeling, we shut it down.
    I commit to opening my heart, when I'm shutting down.

  10. I commit to me + tribe. We are hear for each other. This space was created to be the container in which we connect to ourselves + sisters.
    We do this through integrity, respect, and vulnerability.

What happens when someone breaks one of the rules? I gently remind you: it’s not scary, you don’t get fired or reprimanded. We’re all learning how to be in circle. It is allll good.

Alright sista, that’s it for now.
Erika